No matter how much we deny this, we all have a desire to be loved. Be it by our family, friends, or a special someone. But have you noticed? We all want to be loved by others, but have you ever thought about wanting to be loved by yourself?
Self-love, though some may see it as selfish and self-centered, is actually a selfless kind of love. The more you give love to yourself, the more you are able to love others effectively. The more you take care of yourself, the more you are able to take care of others completely.
When you put yourself last on your list of priorities to love, you will end up empty after giving out all of yourself to your friends and family. You’ll end up feeling burned out and overwhelmed by how much you’re giving but perhaps not receiving the same amount of love in return.
When you have enough love for yourself, you won’t go begging for love from other people. When you have enough love for yourself and other people see it, they’ll love you automatically because of how you love them effortlessly.
So you see, load up lots of love for yourself because you can only give what you have. When you learn to love yourself, it comes with these incredible benefits. Here are six:
1. You'll Be Large & In Charge
Instead of making bad choices because you're being led by shame, guilt, or fear – you will be empowered to make choices that truly make sense for who you are – meaning you will be living your authentic life. You will no longer be caught up with people-pleasing, instead, you will live a life that brings you satisfaction. Self-love means trying to honor yourself because you know your needs are just as important as others.
2. You Set Boundaries & Stick To Them
Once you have the hang of honoring your needs you start to feel more confident, which means you are more assertive. Of course, this results in a more purposeful attitude, especially when it comes to dealing with other people. You start to see who are those worthy of your time and who are those you must avoid in order to keep your peace. More to the point, you are strong enough to set clear boundaries with people and stick to them.
3. The Approval Seeking Will Stop
When you truly love yourself, you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you – which means you're a less defensive person and more confident about living a life that is authentic for you. Why would you need acceptance from everyone else when you truly accept yourself?
4. You Will Be A Conscious Decision Maker
Loving yourself gives you the courage to cut things from your life that don't truly bring you joy or provide you with ample space to grow. It's easy to make courageous decisions when you value yourself and actively make choices that are intended to honor you, rather than risk harming you.
5. You Will Enjoy Alone Time
A lot of people get caught up in keeping busy schedules simply because they're terrified of feeling or being alone. You surround yourself with people, throw yourself into work, and make decisions that help you avoid that loneliness. Why would you do all of the things that you don't love? You could be filling that time with things that you actually enjoy doing – whether it’s meditation, swimming, writing, or watching a movie. It doesn't need to feel scary to spend time alone, you should enjoy time with yourself. Self-love brings more comfort when you're spending time in your own company.
You don't need to find happiness in relationships. The only love that you truly need to be happy is the love of yourself. When you start taking responsibility for it and stop giving your power away to everyone else, you will naturally feel happier. If you're not in a romantic relationship you will find that you aren't as desperate to be in one as you once were because you know you don't need them. When the right person shows up, you will be ready for that love.
Do these benefits sound like something you’d like to experience? If yes, start giving yourself some love!
I hope by now you realize you are worth loving.